
While your baby is still with you
Most hospitals take photographs of
babies who have died and offer them to the parents to pick up whenever they
feel they are ready to take them. Some parents may want to take
photographs for themselves or even get a professional photographer in to take
some (black and white as well as colour). Professional photographers may
offer some great ideas for photos that you may not think of – family
portraits, close-ups of fingers, hands and toes, photos from a distance,
dressed and undressed, close up of face, baby with people – parents,
grandparents, siblings, with a special toy etc. Photographs are great to
have as you can cut them down to put in a locket and have a permanent record
of your baby.
Perhaps you might like to have a video taken of your baby whilst in hospital
or at home to record memories of your baby (holding, bathing, dressing your
baby etc)
Many people do not realise it is often possible to take your baby home.
Taking your baby home allows you to create many memories within your home
environment. Check with your funeral director and they should be able to
assist you.
Have a professional artist draw your baby from a description or a photograph.
You can even have a drawing done of all your children together in the one
picture.
Many hospitals or funeral directors have access to potter’s clay and can
assist in arranging for baby’s hand and footprints to be cast in clay for
the family to keep.
When bathing your baby you may like to use a special lotion or powder on
baby’s skin. The scent often serves as a lasting reminder of contact
with your baby.
Tell your baby what you would like them to know – how you feel, your hopes
and dreams you had for them. Change their nappy, play music to them and
give them a present if you want.
Some hospitals give quilts (donated by quilter’s guilds) that their baby has
been wrapped in to parents to keep – similarly a bunny rug. If it
isn’t washed it can retain the smell of your baby particularly if it is kept
in a sealed plastic bag.
Some hospitals are able to provide a pram so that you can walk with your baby
in the hospital grounds.
You may want to dress your baby in a couple of sets of clothes and keep one to
remember that he or she wore that outfit.
You or a family member/friend may like to make a special card, gown, toy or
bunny rug to be placed in the coffin with your baby.
Most hospitals do hand and foot prints – make sure that both hands and both
feet are done. Another suggestion is to do lip prints by putting
lipstick on your baby.
Place your baby on some paper and draw around his/her profile – it is hard
to remember just how big they were (dressed and undressed). Do drawings
around their hands and feet also.

These precious
moulds were made of Jessica's hand and foot
What a wonderful treasure to have!
Thank you to Jessica's mum for sharing them!
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